I mean, sex is a beautiful thing, right?
But let’s be honest. When you’re pregnant you’re dead tired and you spend your life dreaming of food that will actually stay down, sex is probably the last thing on your mind.
There are going to be more enjoyable changes that pregnancy is going to bring to many women and a heightened sex drive and strong orgasms during some stages of pregnancy are one among those. You’ll be surprised to find that your sex drive fluctuates throughout your pregnancy. It starts to evaporate during the first trimester because you’ll be always tired and nauseated. It’ll slowly get livelier in the second trimester when high levels of hormones send your libido running; then tapering off as your due date approaches and you feel achy, unwieldy, and maybe even nervous about impending parenthood.
Whether you’re feeling like a sex goddess or not, there are plenty of ways you can spice up your pregnancy-sex life. Here are some tips on how to spice up your sex-life :
Talk About Things Other Than Pregnancy
Do not talk of painting the nursery or what to name the baby. Talk about something else. Anything else. Except maybe your fantasy football league (unless she’s in it and kicking your ass), or current affairs (unless she starts it..). In fact, maybe build the conversation to something like how awesome you are together or what you guys like doing together..
Try introducing your partner to something they didn’t know anything about — or didn’t know you knew anything about.
Sex life doesn’t always need to have a partner involved. You don’t need a partner to get yourself going as self-stimulation can be relaxing and fun during pregnancy. And the best part is that you can do it whenever you want. It may also help distract from some of the more unpleasant symptoms you’re experiencing, like morning sickness, back pain, leg and feet swelling, and other discomforts. If you use Sex toys, be sure to wash them thoroughly with each use. Definitely, self help is the best help!
One of the upsides of pregnancy hormones is that your boobs have likely never looked better (never mind the downside that they may ache, especially in the first trimester). Celebrate your new found or enlarged curves with a sexy maternity or nursing bra. It’s going to be a treat to your partner’s eyes. There’s a whole a lot of collection of Lingerie available online to steal a show.
Different sexual positions
It’s said most sex positions are safe until you reach the fourth month of pregnancy. Positions that have you lying flat on your back (missionary, for example) may become uncomfortable and put stress on the blood vessels that bring nutrients and oxygen to your baby inside.
You might try these positions in the second trimester. However, every pregnancy is different and every woman is different. It’s always advisable to contact your doctor if you feel any discomfort or plan to have sex for advice.
- Be on the top. This position lets you be in complete control while also freeing up your big belly. You can set the pace to fast or slow according to your convenience and capacity.
- Cow girl – Position yourself on your hands and knees and let your belly hang. This position tends to work best in the first and second trimester, before your baby gets too heavy and your belly bulges quite a bit.
- Sideways or spooning is always preferable and most comfortable. This position takes the pressure off your joints and belly, and lets you relax.
You may feel a lot of natural wetness during pregnancy. If not, its high time you get a good lubricant that can help get things slick and comfortable. Lube makes its easier and and more fun especially if you have dryness in vagina. Water-based, unscented products are usually preferred especially for sensitive skin down there.
Bring back the mischievous time! If pregnancy hormones have you turned on during the day or when your partner isn’t around, do not let that energy go to waste. Send some sensual/dirty/teasing texts to let him to know exactly what you’re thinking about. He would definitely rush back to you if that’s a possible option.
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Communication is the key. Talk with your partner often and openly about how you’re feeling with regard to your sex life. Want more? Communicate that. Need to back off? Bring it up for discussion. If talking about sex is uncomfortable, trying bringing it up with an “I feel” statement to get going smooth.
For example, “I feel nauseous and super tired lately. I’m not feeling up to sex right now.” “ I feel this might hurt now” Once you get the line of communication open, you can both work together to find something that works for whatever stage you’re in.